You need to get him to someone that actually knows. Everyone appears to be an expert these days and it can be overwhelming with conflicting opinions from those that don't have a real understanding.

There are different ways of going about it I think - a referral to a Paed is next?

You haven't let your little boy down - it can be really hard to identify if quirks are a phase or just personality, just quirks, or more than that.

Don't kick yourself xoxoxo