your not the one letting him down hon...all the 'experts' have let you down by seeing it and not helping you at all
Go back to your GP and demand a referal to Pead. The waiting list can be upto 6 months so the quicker you do it the better hon.
It is completely normal to grieve the child you thought you had hon and to feel lost, not in control and overwhelmed. There is so much outthere information wise that it can be so foggy.
Take a deep breath hon...yourve done so many wonderful things with him to try and get help..but when you have to fight for your child sometimes you need to scream to be heard. Get those lungs ready again dear lady
My Dad has aspergers, and we are yet to find a blood relative of his (including myself and my DD) who DOESN'T have some traits of autism, and many of us are on the spectrum. As it turns out DH seem to be an aspie too!
My friend's little boy is in the middle of being assessed for developmental delays and autistic traits. He is the same delightful little boy he always was (in fact he and i get on great because i REALLY get why those cars need to be in a line, in the correct spectrum order, and of course in order of size! LOL) and his assessment is only doing helpful things for him, in terms of how those around him are now able to help him where he needs help and understand him where he needs understanding.
I'm so sorry the other boys made your DS do what he did in the toilets. Being autistic, you kind of take people at face value. The filters that most people seem to be born with which say "that's a lie" or "question this situation" are patchy or missing. And it can be really difficult when someone is saying one thing but their face or body language is saying something else to figure out which is true, and because words are more concrete they seem to win out a good bit. Logical sense is comforting and illogical things can feel frightening and difficult.
DH and i were looking through some emoticon-type cards recently which our friend's son had been given and we were both shocked that even as normally-functioning people we could only concretely pinpoint what about 15-20% of the expressions on the faces meant, and some of those we "know" because we have learned them through internet use, not because we recognise them.
It's scary to take a breath and think "we need to do this now" but ultimately it doesn't change your son, it only tells you a little bit more about him. We read a novel recently "the curious incident of the dog in the night" which is written from the POV of a teenager with autism. It's not written BY an autistic person, but it does give a handy insight into how the world can look from inside an autistic-type mind.
Thanks Ladies once again..
Hamish is a loving child and always gives me the biggest hugs, but it always on his terms, you cannot go up to him and just hug him, he does not like others initiating the contact with him at all.. He is very bright and is doing very well at school academically. From a very young age he knew all his colours, shapes and numbers.
As a toddler his cars always had to be in a line and he became upset if they were not. He has relaxed on this now. I recall buying him a thomas the tank top and he refused to wear it as one of the numbers on the trains was not correct. By three he knew all the trains names, colours and numbers and could tell you what they were if you asked.
He was diagnosed with hyper sensitivity at around 8 months as i was concerned about the way he flung his arms backwards as a baby. He no longer does this but still does not like the toilet flushing the bath running or other loud noises, although he can make some himself
He is still not keen on shoes and socks and takes forever to put them on as they never fell right. He hates the tiled floor as it is too cold and he will refuse to walk on it bare foot
As i sit here writing this i know in my heart and head that my little boy needs some help... He is and will always be my little man and a loving boy ...
Awww, on the face of it, he looks like he has some of those superkid traits
If you can, look for a book titled "Not even wrong", I read it when trying to find answers about DS, and by the end of it if he was diagnosed on the spectrum I would have felt GOOD about it.
And come hang out in the chatter threads in here - it helped me HEAPS!
You are defaintely not letting your little man down. You are a caring mother who is doing her very best.
Ive read some of your posts before and he does sound like a little boy I used to work with who had aspergers. He was diagnosed only at about 7 and half. Yet they were always saying something is not right here and getting in loads of trouble at school. This little boy was the most loving boy and very social, hence why he didnt fit all the tick boxes. I think there are some similar traits but aspergers children can be different in their own ways.
There are places like Asperger Services Australia which if a member, can allow you access to loads of resources. Although from memory there was a free forum as well with a parent and carer section.
As your from SA, have you contacted Autisum SA? The school should have done a referral for him BUT the school system (it its public) is very back logged with a lack of services.
Feel free to PM me if you dont want to make this public info.
Hi he goes to a private school.
I have a meeting on Thursday with the coordinator of the junior primary. Hoping she will get the school onto this as well for him. His teacher dismissed it and said to me oh do you really want him labelled and then said the school does nothing about it anyway but she is a whole other issue
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