Jelvie

Thank you so much for your post it rang so many bells. I never realised how disengaged DS was as a baby until I noticed how interactive DD is. My DS can name every thomas train too and knows all the numbers and cannot understand why I get the blue ones mixed up all the time. He makes up his own words for things all the time and remebers them, even months after he labels them and is has an unbelievable number concept - has been able to add and subtract for nearly a year now.

We took him to the child health nurse early on as he was very obsessive about placement of things and routines but we were told not to be silly and it was just him being him. We too without even meaning too have fallen into keeping to his routines like making his lunch and making sure his yellow shirt is ready for Thursday and his green shirt for Fridays.

I admit I have been hesitating getting a referal as I don't want to label him and to have to cope with all the hang-ups that come with it but I would like to understand more about where he is coming from and how we can help him adjust so he can live a normal life. My nephew was diagnoised with Aspergers at age 3 and it is very severe, he is also very violent but I think the parentling structure has a lot to do with that and I really don't want to see DS follow down that track if at all possible.

I will def check out that book, thank you so much for posting about your experiences!