Thanks 10longyears - I am lucky, I guess you could say - in that my SIL has a DS with diagnoised aspergers so she has been great to talk things over with.

we started the process off today with a trip to the GP which wasn't brilliant as we are still looking for a family GP so I am dr shopping at the moment and I can safely say the one I saw today WILL NOT be our chosen GP. I explained that I wanted a referral to a paed and started to describe why and all he wanted to know is if he was hyperactive, had trouble focussing(ie he wanted to write down ADD) I explained that his teachers and I had discussed the possibility of Aspergers to which he blankly ignored and continues to ask if he was hyperactive - I'll just add here that english was not his first language and I think he was struggling to understand what i was saying. Anyhow the result is a referal whcih is so garbled I am embarassed to give it to the paed.

It says RE: inappropriate behaviour in 4yo.
2yrs ago Inappropriate behavious. Easily upset and does tantrum if things are not done as used to be
1 month ago started aggressive behaviour against mother. Does not want to have hair cut.

WTF????

Anyway, I already had my paed picked out so hoping we can have more luck with her. Should I write anything down? In what format, will she ask questions? Will DS be in the room with us? He is very clever and knows when we are talking about him, how did you deal with this?

Thanks

Netix - no worries! I understand