Our specialists see us together and each of us seperatley eg: mum and dad alone and then DS alone. We find that way we all get our say and there are sometimes things that little ears dont need to hear. Qld no longer has assertainment levels, that system was changed early last year and only means something in the way the school gets extra funding and support, they now have an IEP and a few other completley confusing systems as a way of assesing there level of needs. We are in a public school that has a specialist unit for Aspergers children (yes they exist) we found there was more support at the public school than the private (who only seemed to want the "normal" easy children) Good luck finding a GP that understands. Mine just moved about a half an hour drive away and I'm still going to be driving to see him, it is to hard to find a new one. Does your SIL live nearby ask her who she sees??? How long is the wait at the place you have the referal too?? Hope not to long for you.