My DH and I have the same issues. Since I 'apparently' choose DD's name he feels he should name this one. My memory was I put together two lists of about 15 names for boys and 15 for girls and gave them to DH to look over, cross out what he liked or didn't and add what he wanted. DH is a bit lazy so just crossed out all the names he didn't like but never added anything to the lists.... We got down to three names for each and left it there. On the way into the hospital DH said.....so are these our names and I said yeap I like them.....
This time around we had to do IVF......I went through allot of procedures because DH didn't want to go through one procedure (he would have preferred not to have another baby - but knew it was a deal breaker for me) so when we discussed it he said that given what I had to to have this bub he would let me name it. I said I would still not name bubs anything that he didn't like but would do the list thing again.....Anyhow just after we had our 12wk scan DH said he wanted to find out the sex....he knows I don't so he started arguing over that saying that I'm not the only one involved with making this baby and he should get a say...the he says "I'm naming this baby aren't I seeing as how you named DD?".... I'm like WTF that's not what we agreed to?????
So anyway he has suggested one name so far 'Petra'...there is no way I'm having a baby named Petra.....but I decided that I wont argue about it just now. We still have a while until we have to decide so I'm going to wait until after Xmas and then I have said to DH to have a list of names he likes....we will combine with mine and go from there....who knows if it will work....I guess someone has to make the final decision but I am hoping at least it might be something we both like.....
OMG DH's should just not be allowed to choose the name
I got lucky with DS. I had a name I was set on but DH wouldn't budge. So I suggested it for a middle name & he could pick the first from my list. I gave him a list of about 20 names in order of my preference & he picked the number two name on it. I had left DS's middle name as number 1 JIC he changed his mind .
With DD, we had a lot more trouble. Everything on my list was "too weird" or he knew someone with that name. You know - I went to preschool with an X. In another state. & has never seen or heard of them since. And of course his input was non-existent . We did eventually agree and again I got lucky with my number 2 name
I had decided if he couldn't suggest any names or like any of mine, then I would just choose it myself and tell him at the birth. I don't think that would have went down well though since he's a bit of a control freak.
To stop the arguments though, I just stopped talking about it until it was getting closer. You still have a long time to think about it so just let it go for a couple weeks. My DH just simply couldn't understand the need to bond and refused to think about names when he still had months to go. If it's really important to you to choose a name early, maybe explain as best you can about bonding and then ask him to prepare a list of 20 names he likes by say 20 weeks. And tell him if he doesn't, then you'll take it as consent for you to choose the name and then never mention it again until the birth
We did a list each and then compared - any names that showed up on both were automatically in and the rest were up for negotiation. If there were valid reasons as to why they wouldn't work then they got crossed off. If it was just an "I don't like" then it was moved to the potential middle name list.
We were very lucky though with DD1 her names were on both lists and it was an automatic choice. With DD2 we had decided on the first name and DD1 chose the middle name (actually she came up with the idea of using that name too) so DD2 has the name of our OB as her middle name as DD1 adored our OB.
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. We did eventually agree and again I got lucky with my number 2 name 
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