OMG DH's should just not be allowed to choose the name

I got lucky with DS. I had a name I was set on but DH wouldn't budge. So I suggested it for a middle name & he could pick the first from my list. I gave him a list of about 20 names in order of my preference & he picked the number two name on it. I had left DS's middle name as number 1 JIC he changed his mind .

With DD, we had a lot more trouble. Everything on my list was "too weird" or he knew someone with that name. You know - I went to preschool with an X. In another state. & has never seen or heard of them since. And of course his input was non-existent . We did eventually agree and again I got lucky with my number 2 name

I had decided if he couldn't suggest any names or like any of mine, then I would just choose it myself and tell him at the birth. I don't think that would have went down well though since he's a bit of a control freak.

To stop the arguments though, I just stopped talking about it until it was getting closer. You still have a long time to think about it so just let it go for a couple weeks. My DH just simply couldn't understand the need to bond and refused to think about names when he still had months to go. If it's really important to you to choose a name early, maybe explain as best you can about bonding and then ask him to prepare a list of 20 names he likes by say 20 weeks. And tell him if he doesn't, then you'll take it as consent for you to choose the name and then never mention it again until the birth