We kept our DD1's name a secret until birth, we told everyone her gender but kept her name a secret, succesfully for over half of the pregnancy!
DD2's name we decided to share. Alot of people know what our boys name will be, we have had a couple of boys born into the family in the last couple of years and I let them know that we had chosen the name Mason and that it was imprortant to us, if someone had used it we would have used it anyway. So, if this baby is a boy everyone will know his name however if it is another girl I think I may keep it a secret I would love to keep the gender a secret (from everyone else, not us) but I don't know that DH could go the distance .
I say, keep it a secret. It is lovely to have a suprise.
Urgh, you have my sympathy MrsS. My MIL thought it was her God given right to know the gender and the names...she would have bet her house we were keeping the gender from her on purpose (but we didn't even know). She also wanted naming rights...yeah sure.
With DS we did know but we certainly weren't letting on. She bunged it on again, and we fobbed her - again. She was ropeable when she found out that we did tell one person, and she told another (my uncle and godfather and her husband who sadly took that info to his grave not 24hours later). She wanted to know why she hadn't been important enough to tell....
I can't believe people are giving you a hard time about keeping your names a secret.
I kept my names a secret both times. Names are hard enough to work out without having other peoples opinions play a role. With #2 We kept his gender a secret too.
pffft keep it a secret as long as you can my own SiL stole my name for a girl if my ds had of been a boy and just coincidentally her dd was born 3 weeks before ds and she tried to hide the name she chose as it was the name i was going to have..
loads of people weren't happy, and we basically said that was too bad.
a simple thing I said to some particularly persistent people was that as I'd managed to keep the pregnancy a secret for 22 weeks (almost all of which I was violently ill with m/s) they could just zip it about the sex and the names, as I clearly wasn't going to budge, so they need not waste their time and energy
omg my mother drove/drives me nuts asking what names we like/liked etc
We found out the sex when preg with DS and she started on it. I ended up saying we have a shortlist but want to see him first before naming him. The response was "what's on the list".
So i just told her bluntly we aren't telling anyone our name choices. She got huffy and wanted to know what... my answer shut her up .. "Because I don't want anyone else's opinion, it's mine and Dh's choice".
So that got around it for DS... now she's at it again "oh what names do you like". And again i just keep saying "i'm not telling you cos I don't want your opinion". That or I just "not sure, haven't gotten that far. will let you know when bubs arrives". Or when she does it in front of other people (to put me on the spot) i say "i told you already, we are not telling anyone". Or what about saying "unless you were there for conception, you don't get a say in the name... or a spot at the birth"
it really annoys me how some people think they have a right to know everything about the baby before the baby is born. Not only that, you'll probably swing between names before decising on one... we were deadset going with Andrew until a month before and Andrew didn't even make the shortlist we took to the hospital.
GL - sounds like you've got a pushy one on your hands. My sister told me she was sending me a list of names i wasn't allowed to use jic she had kids one day WTF?? I told her to send it, as I needed some suggestions and if i liked one, would take great pleasure in using it if I so wanted... list never arrived.
oh my sister did that too when we found out the twins were boys oh you cant use this name coz im having that when i have kids, i didnt even like the name so shes safe but i did tell her well im the one pregnant with boys, your not even pregnant so if we pick it, we pick it!
Yes right decision. If you tell people when you are pregnant people think they have a right to try to change the name you have chosen if it doesn't suit them or make negative comments. If you tell them after the baby is born people won't normally make negative comments or say they don't like the name.
When I was pregnant with DD my family believed you should never tell the names, incase the ultrasound was wrong about the sex!
We never found out that it was a girl anyway.
All I ever told my family was that the girls name was biblical (hannah), and the boys name is quite old (toby).
I did however say that we would be using our middle names for the bubs middle name.
So we got Hannah Marie, and if it was a boy it would have been Toby Leigh.
First there were the comments "oh you know the sex of the baby, thats sad, didn't you want a suprise?" to which I always reply ... it was a surprise we just got it early
Then the names comments - man, you're dammed if you do and your damned if you don't.
I let DD name slip a few times to my bestie and Mum and I didn't talk at all through my pregnancy with her so there weren't the same dramas as we had with DDD.
We named DD what we orginally were going to call DDD (departed darling daughter). When we originally told my Mum that name she screwed her nose up and said "nah you're not really going to call her that, that's a horses name" ... she denies it of course but I was so gutted by her comment I have never forgot it. So because we went with a different name for DDD, we decided DD was always going to have her chosen name.
To avoid the few comments we did get I always said we couldn't decide on two names that were way off the mark anyway. I love false names ... that way if the offenders said "oh I don't like that name" it didn't matter because it was never going to be it
ALSO its harder to say "I don't like that name" when they are looking upon the said baby in all their cuteness
So in all my waffling I would suggest a few false names just to "appease" people ...no you shouldn't have to do that BUT it WILL shut them up
I love surprising people that's part of the fun for me!!
we didn't tell our famililies that we were pg until we were about 10 weeks, and we'd decided that if we were having twins, we were going to keep that as a surprise too (it was a significant possibility, as there's twins on both sides of our family...).
this is your baby, your special time, and you get to make the decisions in the way that you want.
I would love to keep the gender a secret (from everyone else, not us) but I don't know that DH could go the distance 
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