we kept both the sex and the names a secret.

loads of people weren't happy, and we basically said that was too bad.

a simple thing I said to some particularly persistent people was that as I'd managed to keep the pregnancy a secret for 22 weeks (almost all of which I was violently ill with m/s) they could just zip it about the sex and the names, as I clearly wasn't going to budge, so they need not waste their time and energy

GL!!!