I ran into a friend at work, someone I know well but don't see socially. His wife was pg with their forst child. I asked if they had picked names and he looked a little sheepish. If it was a boy, the name was the same as my DS. If it was a girl (and she was) the name was the same as DD1! I felt quite flattered that they liked our names!

On the other hand, when I was pg with DD1 I was at a friends house and one of her friends, a mutual aquaintance we saw regularly although we wouldn't catch up alone, was also pg. She asked our names and when I told her our boys name she said she really liked it but hadn't ever considered it. We had a girl, she had a boy... and used 'our' name, both first and middle! Odd...

I reckon if you like the name, go for it! Neither of you are copying each other, you just both like the same name!