A midwife visited me at home and I had to go into hospital because he wasn't feeding and clearly had never fed because look, when he feeds he's not doing XYZ... touching the two of us as he fed. I have felt bad about starving my baby for ages, especially cos it felt like he was feeding - talking to a LC earlier today she pointed out midwives have no training for this, babies don't always need feeds and as DS was refusing breast, bottle and cup he was full!