Kel I know that is is not what you are after but honestly nothing anyone has ever said to me has made me feel that way. There have been plenty of times I have felt guilty, insecure or inadequate, but it has always been because of something I have read which made me worry that Flynn wasn't doing what he should when he should or something similar. I don't know if I am thick skinned or just arrogantly secure in what I am doing with him, but if anything I think it comes from speaking to other mums and hearing their stories of being made to feel bad by things others have said that prepped me in advance to not get upset IYKWIM? I have heard so many negative stories about things my MIL said to my SIL for example, which I thought were all really stupid, that when she gave me advice I just shrugged off all her suggestions. Like she keeps telling me I should give Flynn Valergan (?) to get him to sleep better at night. I just think she's nuts even suggesting it, because I have it firmly planted in my mind that most babies DO NOT sleep 12 hours straight. Like I said, maybe arrogance, but I think it is more to do with empathy for other mums who have been given a hard time.