Anyone feel like me?

[Debbie Lee]

I don't think anyone hear would judge you for expressing your feelings, Starmama.
I completely understand the desire for you to have a little girl. It doesn't mean you love your sons any less but if it's something you've had your heart set on for a long time, how could you not be disappointed that it didn't eventuate?
So you have 5 boys?
I know my DH's ex boss has 7 boys. They are very open and honest when they say they were trying for a girl. After 5 boys, they decided to stop but their desire to have a girl meant that they had 2 more a few years later. I also heard that they would have kept going but her body just couldn't cope with any more pregnancies.
Does that make them bad parents? Does that mean they love their boys any less (all of which are incredibly successful and handsome!)? Of course not.

I'm one of 4 girls and I know for a fact that my Dad would have liked a boy. He has always maintained that he loves us no matter what but I think he always felt something was missing. My parents did have a boy but he was stillborn (he was their first). So I guess that sense of loss was highlighted by the fact that they had girls after that.
I'd also love to have a boy if possible... simply because I was one of 4 girls. I know my sisters would love for me to have a boy also. We'll have to see what happens but, deep down, I would really love for this bubba to be a boy. I do feel a little guilty for feeling that way but, if it happens to be a girl, I'll love her just the same.... she'll be my baby after all.

Everyone's stories and reasons are different - but your feelings are valid. I think talking about it is the best thing you can do to work through it. Good on you for having the courage to post