But I'm "tired" of people always talking about it like babies should sleep when they want & wake when they want etc...and they must have a problem if they don't and lets change them and torture ourselve's!!!! at some point we need to accept things the way they are and work with it or around it...if you know what I mean. errrr I don't know I'm not as good with my words as some.
I get that you are trying to say that babies are not robots and run to their own beat, and that we should respect that. However, in every relationship there has to be compromise on both sides. Sometimes it can be 'torture' to deal with a current situation. The times when I have tried to function on next to no sleep for days on end and still look after my two children have been really hard. Letting people know that I am not coping with having no sleep (have been through days with my DS where I got 1 hour sleep PER NIGHT for 3 to 4 days in a row!!) means that perhaps they could offer to help in some way as well as be a shoulder to cry on.