i havent even had my baby yet, and already im stressed out about what "sleeping technique" to use.
it seems like half of everyone that asks me is against baby sleeping in cot, and the other half are against co-sleeping. and then there are the occasional people that are in the middle somewhere.
now before i delved into the huuugge issue and the masses of information that is "sleeping techniques", i thought it was normal for a baby to be put in their cot under the watchful eye of the mother throughout the night. Is this wrong??
Do whatever works for you and your baby. There are many co-sleepers who thought they would never co-sleep (but they have found that it works best for them). And many babies who have let their parents know they love sleeping in their cot alone. You have to do what works for you and your family.
SIDS & KIds recomend that babies sleep in the same room as their parents for the first 6 - 12 months in their own sleeping space. Some parents can't sleep in the same room and others can't sleep unless bub is in the same bed. You will work out your own way. Check out the SIDS guidelines and other safety precautions but these can be woven into most sleeping arrangements.
I don't "complain" about my lack of sleep, but if someone asks, I am honest and say I am always tired. Wish I wasn't, but I am. I've always needed more sleep than most people - when I was working full-time, there'd be days I'd still be tired after sleeping for 10 hours straight!
So waking up 3 times a night and BFing my DD to sleep for anything from 20 mins to 1 hour is very hard for me.
I wish it didn't bother me, but it's the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with in my entire life. I feel heaps of guilt about this, since so many other mums just get on and do it. I do think I'm a bad mum for feeling this way - which is a main reason why DD will be an only child. (And then more guilt about that too, just for good measure!)
But I've dealt with it for 14 months now, so I'm sure I'll survive another 14 months, if need be! Maybe it will stop by the time she's 3 years old
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