Controlled Crying is bad, mmkay?

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So an article popped up in my FB newsthread today. Paraphrasing but the gist was 'Controlled Crying is bad, ok...why do parents think their kids should sleep through by 12 weeks... please buy my book....'

It got me thinking, firstly into how many blogs/articles are now written as if they are presenting research but then slide in 'if you want more info, please buy my book/potion....'

But secondly, So many writings on sleep/feeding/baby behaviours focus on the less than 6 month period, maybe up to 12 months and then after that you are on your own. I didn't have any illusions that my child would 'sleep through' by 12 weeks, but i would like it if he would sleep longer than 2 or 3 hours by now (13 months). I had a similar experience with my first, the first time we got a 5 hour stretch she was 15 months old. I was ok doing it with number 1, and had many explanations (she had a rough start, she needs touch, she is high needs, doesn't need much sleep...), but after doing it again with #2, and things have gotten harder with him rather than easier, i start to wonder maybe what i am doing is not working, and is not helping them long term.

Maybe if i tried harder to get them to sleep/in a pattern/ break them/whatevs when they were little instead of going with the flow/just surviving they would have the skills to settle and we would all be getting more sleep.

ETA - I think it is easy to say that responding to your baby is awesome, no CC, blah, blah if your kids learn how to sleep in the first year. When you are looking at 2 years, 3 years of kids that don't like to sleep day or night it gets harder to keep believing that what you are doing is good for them and good for the family.