Thankyou so much everyone.

Your thoughts and ideas have already been fantastic. I think maybe I've been expecting too much from DD at times. She is still quite little and if I didnt have another little one to think about as well, she would still be my baby.......so saying that I really need cut her a little bit of slack. Saying this, I won't have her walking all over me. She needs to learn socialisation and communication skills. I also need to fix some of my communication skills too.

Alibaby - yep, you said it, giving praise for the tiniest things does help. Ta

Cherie and Happy Mummy - . Hope these ideas help you out too. It's nice to know I'm not the only one feeling like this too.

Cass - love the stickers idea and Oskar's response. Very funny! Beauty didnt really respond to a sticker chart for TT though, so unfortunately it doesnt seem to be on her radar screen.

Skeetaboat - great ideas. Me time - I soooooo need that. You prompted me to organise a few things. I even left DH with both kids (fancy that) on Saturday arvo and went to do the grocery shopping. I know kind of boring but honestly I felt amazing. I dawdled, looked at products, compared prices and chatted to people without dealing with my two precious children at the same time. It felt quite liberating. After reading your post, I too have realised that Beauty is uncooperative when I rush her or dont listen to her. Seems simple but when you have a list of things to do......It's about changing perspective and priorities. My kids are my life, and what I teach them impacts (either negatively or positively) on their future. I WILL stop and listen to my children. They are more important than running another errand. Also your point about avioding reacting to negative behaviour is a top one.

Fiona - Thanks so much for those few sentences. That makes things so easy...I've used them for a few days now and THEY WORK!!!! Yay

I've noticed over the weekend how much I've changed my perspective from reading everyone's ideas that I used to react to most things which would increase my stress levels, therefore increasing Beauty and Budda's stress levels too.

Anyway....heres to a me, a new and improved mummy who is working on her communication skills and listening more to her kids.

Thanks everyone.