crying crying cryinngggg

[Butterfly_Princess]

Cassius2 Sorry i posted when you posted lol
Thanks heaps for your reply!! I feel so much better (and so does DP) I must admit isabell loves going for drives in the car, im unsure if she actually sleeps while in the car, coz most times ill ge tout and see her and she will be wide eyed and seeming to be quite happy, looking all cute in her car seat. But it costs lots to go for drives all the time, so i try and think of excuses to go for a drive all the time lol.
I must admit, i am a bit nervous to take isabell out to a shopping centre, i dont know if this is a normal feeling at all??

I love her so much, she is so beautiful and she is my everything (as is my DP) and i just hurt so much when she is crying so much and no matter what i try it doesnt seem to be good enough, its so painful and it tortures me. Id do anything for her.

[~clover~]

I know how you feel. DD2 was kinda the oppisite to your little one. She had Colic. She would start between 5 & 7 at night & scream til 3am. Every night.
By the time she finally went to sleep I was crying out of frustration! I have to admit that I looked at our concrete walls in a whole new light. - I would never hurt one of my kids, but when you are pushed that far, stupid things go through your mind.
I then had DD1 getting up at 7am. I was getting 4 hours sleep a night. For 10 weeks.
She slept great once she was asleep. Wouldn't wake till 2 in the afternoon. I think about twice for feeds & thats it.
So she did sleep through the day, but I had a mischevious 3 year old as well, so I couldn't.
Being the time of night she did it, I couldn't go for walks & all that. All I could do was stress & feel like I wasn't good enough. PND hit pretty bad with her & I was put on anti depressants.
You can try what everyone else suggested. I spent hours walking back & forth in my lounge room holding her, or using a sling, trying to get her to take a dummy. I had no help too.
The best thing I can say is be patient. I know it's hard, but it does get better. DH used to lay with her on his chest coz they like the sound of the heart beat & it helped a bit. you could try it.
Just remember that you are doing the best you can. You are a great mum. You are just having a hard time at the moment.
Offer constant breast feeds if it helps. Don't worry about doing the wrong thing by always feeding or constantly holding, or even walking away for 10 minutes to take a breath. No more than 10 minutes though. Try leaving the tv on, vaccuming, putting music on. All these can help.
Babies don't like quiet.

Anyways, I hope at least something in here helps. It will get better, I promise.

[christy]

ahhh you have tried so much. I'm sorry if my post seemed like I was condeming you, far from it.

Matilda did this starting from around 4 weeks, she would scream. It didn't matter if I was holding her or not, and I felt so guilty when I put her down and walked away. So even though I posted about cortisol and all of that, sometimes, not a regular thing... its the best thing for her.

I guess with all you have done the best thing may be to take her to someone for help. With Matilda, I went the general method. I went to GP's, Paediatricians, sleep school and MCHN's. With Jovie, I went the alternative route, I went to a lactation consultant first because her stuff affected her feeding. Then I took her to a chiro and then an acupuncturist. We got the most and best relief from acupuncture out of everything we did, for either child. And we found out at the same time that Jovie reacted to cows milk products and soy. So I changed my diet and Jovie got better without anything else. A few months later Matilda was diagnosed with a severe milk allergy.

A few people who have been known to be help with reflux:

osteopaths
chiropractors
acupuncturist
lactation consultants

I would start one at a time. Concentrate on one thing and in a week if you haven't found relief, move on. Sometimes it helps to have GP's working with alternative therapies to get the best relief.

[Cassius2]

Hi MummyMeg!

LOL at the 'all cute in the backseat'!! so true! at least she is calm though!

yeah, i think the shopping centre fear is there for all of us first timers! but i bit the bullet pretty early on in the process as it is a place FULL of desperately overtired mums and bubs, you see us everywhere pushing bubs around while they sleep peacefully away in the prams...so there is some solidarity...also, the parent rooms are a good place to go when bubs is screaming and needs a feed as invariably there are other mums with bubs doing the exact same thing. i found that i haunted shopping centres, cafes (have a coffee - decaf if necessary! while bubs is feeding or sleeping), or if worse comes to worse go for a walk around the neighbourhood...DH and I found that we got to know our area SO MUCH better after having DD! LOL!!

i also recommend joining a parents group (if you havent already). this was my saving grace as it meant that despite having horrible nights and days i could go somewhere and vent and compare notes with other mums. it was also GREAT to see other mums going through the same things as me! made me realise that DD wasnt crying because i was doing the wrong thing, she was crying, because that's just what they do! now 9 months down the track we are great friends and meet up a couple of times a week, for much needed coffees...

Also, remember, if things get really tough on the sleep front there is always the sleep school option. i recommend giving tresillian or QE2 a call and trying to book in. there is generally a waiting list, so put your name down and if in the 2 months things sort out, great, otherwise hang in there and go along. everyone of the mums in my group that have gone have found it really helps. Also there are day sleep schools that you can go to, generally run through the MACH centres. talk to your nurse or on the helpline. i went to the day one and it changed my life! (i went when DD was 6 weeks). check it all out online, there is alot out there. also, if you are interested in more attachent style, there are some great people who can come to you and give you some ideas on what to do. for this i recommend starting out with Pinky McKay (she has her own website...google her name...sorry not sure if i can mention it on here...).