Yep, definitely ask him to read "The Science of Parenting" - it made my DH completely change his tune, and I even overheard him telling his mum on the phone about how bad CC is (his mum did it to him I think). We will never do that, and its such a relief to me that DH now respects my decision. Its all thanks to that book. Really!

I don't think some dads hear a babies cry the same way us mum's do. With no offence intended to all the brilliant dad's out there, but I think it just 'hurts our hearts' more. I had to go out to the washing line a few months back, when our DD was a few weeks old. I came back inside and she was screaming in her rocker. I said to DH "why didn't you pick her up?? WTF?? What are you doing??" His answer: I am eating my lunch!!!!! FAR OUT!!!! Its only us mums who can do those two things at once, and who put the bub ahead of our own stomachs!!

Anyway - enough of my rant. I really hope you sort it out, and that your DH realises that gentle parenting is the way to go.