The only other parent who understands I'm not mean is a dietician and her husband I met recently! Even my mum thinks I'm mean for no lollies. She gave my friend's boy a lolly (with her blessing) and "felt mean" that I didn't want DS to have one! DS is on a no-cows-milk-products diet so he always asks before having food, and if I tell him it is a "cow food" thing he won't eat it.

BUT if someone buys him something to eat, I just thank them. Then eat it myself when DS is in bed. It's a nice thought. If they want to give DS it there and then I explain he can't have it because of his allergy, but then will give them a dairy-free alternative to give DS.