We have 3 birthdays in March with mum's group, so I might try to organise a mum's group thing for the three birthdays somewhere in the middle - they are the 10th, 15th and 20th. That way he can have a party with his friends & we can have a small family BBQ as well.

That's why I love you guys - full of fantastic suggestions you are

LOL at it being about me as well Cai & Lucy. I never thought about it that way!! I was just totally looking at it as Zander's big day.

Dach, I like your idea of having something different for each birthday. When we were growing up we didn't have parties every year, but we got to pick a special dinner. It was never going out for dinner, just something that we liked & wanted mum to cook.