I remember when I was young, maybe 7 or 8, and my greatgrandma died. We were very close, and I was devastated, but I wasn't allowed to go the the funeral, and its something I am still sad about to this day. I wanted to say goodbye - I had been to visit while she was sick, and then so just disappeared and even though I was a bit older, I felt it was important for me to say goodbye, I just never got to do that. I would say yes, allow her to go to the funeral. You could remind her that all these people loved her Baba too, and even though she is gone now, everyone is there to remember and be happy that Baba had such a wonderful life.

I probably would skip the burial, I think thats defianately the most emotional time for most, some people get hysterical and it may scare her!