I don't think she's too young - I don't think it's so much about what she sees or experiences per se, as it is about how you as her parents help her to understand and deal with it.

Taking a four year old to a funeral where everyone is visibly upset and seeing the coffin being buried and then not talking to her about it or giving her any way to deal with it is obviously not wise but you don't sound like the type of parent to leave her hanging like that.

I think it's really important that we talk to our children about death, it's as much a part of life as birth and they need to know about it. It's all in the way we handle it ourselves, that's what kids respond to.

I'm sure you'll make the right decision for your little girl, and I'm very sorry for the loss your family is suffering :hugs: