In terms of the patting, we always did exactly what Christy did with Matilda, i.e. lying Jacob on his side, one hand on his shoulder, the other patting his bottom.

So do you mean you sort of 'hold them down'? Because I guess that's what the wrapping did before, it kept her still...

I'm taking all of this in - thanks again everyone! Keep the ideas coming LOL.

And another inconsistency - the sleep cues. Because I often take her in her room & do all that, but if there is something really good on telly I just put her to sleep on my lap Naughty me....