You are definately NOT a usless mum. I know it's hard hun, I really do. I have an 18 month old who STILL doesn't sleep properly, and it is completely tiring and draining. Now I know why they use sleep deprivation as a form of torture cause anyone would crack under that pressure. I don't have any advice because I still struggle to find out how to fix my own dd's sleep issues. But I couldn't read this without giving some and hoping it gets easier for you. Just keep reminding yourself your not useless, your trying to find a solution to your problem that's not useless babe.