Saffi - I think you are right in that if I could get the baby into a better routine then managing the toddler would be easier. But! How to do!? Got any tips? I've just tried the white noise today and she's currently having one of her longest sleeps in a very long time (70 mins so far!), so hopefully that will be the key. I have tried resettling after she wakes, but most of the time she wont resettle.

Kim - DS wanting interactive play isn't so much an attention thing - he'd happily play computer/iPhone or watch TV by himself for hours if I would let him. It's more that he doesn't want to play with ordinary toys and activities without someone playing alongside him. He's really quite good in terms of jealousy/understanding when I need to take care fo the baby. He understands what I mean when I say he needs to play alone and I need a rest, but he just doesn't *like* it.

We go to playgroup once a week, childcare once a week and grandparents once a week. Sometimes a playdate with friends/cousins thrown in too. He is good at interacting with other kids although he had a patch there where he didn't want to go to childcare because there's no computer there! So I stopped letting him use the computer shortly after that happened which remedied his disinclination and he's happy to go again.