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I think that most mothers would have been struggled to not lose it after going through what you did
I am glad that your DH gave you some time out as well, it can really help to have that break and just refocus.

I am not sure about the dummy, DD has her just in bed and we don't let her out of bed until she hands it over and it is stored away during the day where she can't get to it. She was weaning herself off it, but has gone back to it but as it is isolated to bed it isn't so bad. It took a bit, but she had to give it up, if we took it, all hell would break lose, but once she was happy to give it up is was good. She now gets up int he morning and gives it to us, if she doesn't want her day sleep she will give us the dummy and point to the door saying up/out. And if she asks for it at all, we would jsut say, so do you want to go to bed do you, and after saying it a few time sshe realises that she doesn't want to go to bed and will find another way for comfort, a cuddle or go and play.

I hope today is a much better day for you