There is one concept I am always trying to instill into DD: I might not always like her actions, but I will always love her. Just because shhe does a bad thing, doesn't mean she's a bad person. I think we need to tell this to ourselves, too. We might sometimes make bad choices. But that doesn't make us bad parents. It is how we deal with these bad choices that makes all the difference. Being a mum is not about perfection.
Sasa