Thanks again all! I'll definitely incorporate that into my speech to my aunt Fionas LOL! And I love hearing about how different all your boys are Willow. Such good proof that its sooooo much to do with temperament. I'm over all the finger pointing at the mother. In an act of depleted confidence I went out and bought Toddler Tactics by Pinky McKay today. I seem to already be doing a lot of what she suggests. You gotta love Pinky.