Self settling

[Heaven]

Tasha, I don't know what's going on apart from what you have written in your posts. So from an outsiders view it seems like you have an idea of how you want your baby to sleep and are trying to implement a sort of routine. It's totally fine to have ideas and try different things. When it's not working though, then it's time to try something else. Your baby doesn't like this routine, it's not working for her. You can keep persisting with it and stressing the both of you out, or you can try something different. I know what I'd be doing. When you're ready to try something else then I would just read back over this thread, there are many many great suggestions from people who have been there before and found things that worked. It's all about trying new things and finding the best thing for your baby.

And yeah, your baby is normal. Yes, that is how babies are IMO and a lot of other people's. It would be awesome if they kept to a feeding schedule and self-settled from birth but that is a totally unrealistic expectation for the vast majority of babies.