I can't imagine why anyone would think you're anything other than a mum doing her absolute best

I have one that came out screaming and who had been highly emotional ever since (and he is 3 months off turning 4).

as language has improved he has got a bit better but he still has tantrums, hits when frustrated etc.

if your gut tells you it's something outside the boundaries of 'normal' then I would seek help. my ds.recently had his 3.5 year old check up with the mchn and even though he passed the 'test' my mchn has given me a referral to a paed because I said I had some concerns. I figure the worst that will happen is that it is all normal but if it isn't, then I want to get help before my little guy is ready for school.

I also like janet lansbury's approach and even though it's tough to always remain as calm etc she suggests but the info on dealing with a child who hits/tantrums I have found really helpful.

good luck