Hey there, don't feel like you are a bad Mum, that's just not true!!!! sounds like you do heaps, there is no right or wrong amount of doing things and we all do them differently! Each child is different and develops and communicates in their own time and way.

Having said that the CC staff are trained as are teachers etc to look out for specific things. They are not being horrible people, they are not doing this to hurt you!!! They don't need to be slapped, you should actually be glad they have picked something up & bought your attention to it. They could be way off in what they have said, but it does not hurt to get a refferal to a speach therapist or pead who will give you a better answer. Instead of the focus on what you do and don't do, perhaps just get a check up.....it doesn't hurt. I think the hardest thing is being told something and feeling really crap about it as you just want the best for your kids and love them soooo much. But time and time again we see parents get upset and mad about these things rather than just address them. Sorry, I'm not trying to be harsh here, this is just my opinion and training.