our first few weeks weren't as difficult as i'd thought they would be. we managed to adapt to having DD home really easily - DH was a massive support, and he would take one wake up at night every night - he'd pass her to me, i'd feed her, then he'd go to the other end of the house to settle her. by two weeks, we didn't need that - she'd feed, go back to sleep - seemed to know day from night. at three weeks, DH went away to work - and things turned to crap big time! i don't know if i was feeling more stressed, or if DD wasn't coping without Daddy - but we had a few really bad days. over the next couple of months DH was home a few days, away a few days - and it made it hard! DD slept through from five or six weeks, for at least 5 hours wake, feed, sleep another 4 minimum - so that aspect was fine - but the difference in her behaviour during the day was noticable. DH has now been back home just on three months, and it's mostly been good. we started solids last week and are having trouble with sleep again, but we expected that, so we just go about feeding her and getting her back to sleep asap over night...

i wouldn't say those first weeks were easy - but, like a lot of people, i'd been given every horror story in the book about how terrible it would be, had people saying i wouldn't cope etc - and it really just felt like she'd always been there and we were fine. we managed to plan, clean and cook for her baptism ok (she was baptised at 8 weeks!), with minimal outside help - so it can't have been too bad. adapting to having her in our lives definitely isn't a factor in putting me off having another...