Thanks. I will focus more on what he is doing.
I have asked dh to talk to MIL but she will never be on board- activly works against us for the most part with a lot of things. She is clinginf to the 1 grandchild she can, DS1 can see her for what she is and hates all her fussing and other stuff LOL DD is too young and will never be left with MIL if I can help it.