DS2 is 3 going on 4. A small boy in bottom 10% for his age but very intellegent. He is a funny happy child stil prone to tantrums and learning to "use his words" to get what he wants/ needs. He is a very picky and slow eater. I suspect this is partly a control thing for him. As a baby he wouldnt let me spoon feed him just wanted to do it all himself. How ever through time spent with MIL he now likes to be spoon fed. I think this is why he is getting slower at eating so we feed him if we need to go some where, or the kindy teachers will feed him as they need to finish up lunch.
My MIL completely babys him. feeds him baby food, carries him everywhere, spoils him and gives him whatever he wants. So I have tried to limit how much time we spend with her- without depiving the kids of their grandma.
He has been toilet trained for over 1 year and at kindy he is fine, will have 2 hour sleep without wetting his bed or himself however at home we can go through 3-6 pairs of pants a day and if he has a sleep I have to put a pull up on him. He stil has a pull up at night.
DS1 and him sare a room but have their own beds. Most nights he is the last 1 asleep as he needs mummy to go to sleep and I really dont have the time or patience to lie in bed with him for hours waiting for him to fall asleep
He asks for bottles of his sisters milk, insists he is still a baby, wants to be little/ small/ skinny etc because its cute.
He generally drives me (dh doesnt seem to get days off) crazy with his babyness/ wanting to be baby.
It has been a huge year for our family. Moving into our own home. having another baby, daddy being in hospital for a month, lots of people staying with us, but life has always been a bit, umm ,eventful for our family.

So, the long and the short of it is. I want to encourage DS2 to "grow up". I want to get across to him that being a baby isnt so great and its time to start becoming a strong smart little man.
I have had numerous talks with him about this, and we talk about all the things kids can do that babys cant etc and for a few hours he likes the idea but then goes back to clingy baby. His idea of himself and how he wants to be is very set.
Help me please before I pull out all my hair