We are hoping to have #2 ASAP. DH made the interesting point about people wanting to spend time with the 1st and giving that as a reason to delay having a 2nd. In his view that means that you are kind of accepting that every kid but the 1st somehow will "miss out", because after #1 there will always be competition (he is the 2nd of 4, BTW)

Not intended as a criticism of those who have this reasoning, just an interesting point....