At DS's CC they have been teaching them to say 'stop (with hand signal), I don't like it'. It sounds really simple, but it seems to be working when I see kids do it in the room. Obviously it takes awhile to sink in, but is a good start.
In you situation, I probably would be keeping a very close eye on what goes on. When he starts to do something that is overstepping the line I would go over to E and explain to her that she should say 'stop it, I don't like it'. You're almost killing two birds with one stone - you'll be empowering E to learn how to deal with this sort of stuff, but at the same time you will be intervening in a way that isn't telling the other child off iykwim.
Mind you, I think when the other child is so much older and has the bully traits you are talking about, you'll always have to keep a close eye on things... Even when E gets the hang of standing up for herself, there is nothing to say the other child is going to respect it.
To be honest, I am more confrontational when something is hurting or upsetting my boys that I don't think they are equipped to handle. If they can or I think they should, I step back and just watch to monitor the situation.
Anyway, next time, I would loudly announce that I will be watching my child outside because it is obvious that P is unable to play nicely with others. I would look at his parents and say would you like to join me or shall I discipline him if I believe it is warranted? (mention that you will not put your hand on him unless he is physically agressive to your DD). Put them on the spot so the focus is brought to their parenting skills by all the other adults. It will definitely make them uncomfortable but your DD is the priority.
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