thanks Onyx

his parents don't seem to be prepared to address his issues. i know my friend's mum (P's grandmother) won't look after him due to his behavioural issues and the way he treats the other kids - but the parents don't seem to want to address it. My friend has filled me in a little on family dynamics, and from what she has said there is a lot of tension in her brothers marriage (he only wanted two kids, she is pregnant with number five in her quest to have another little girl) - P is child number 3, and when he was born with a penis, his mother somewhat withdrew from him (well, once he wasn't a baby any more). it may have contributed. it may simply be that he is a sociopath in the making (my friends words, not mine!).

i don't want to cause dramas for my friend by adding tension with her brother if i do anything - but i don't want my girl to get hurt either. She already said to him several times yesterday to stop. we've taught her that even when we're playing, if she says stop, we will (tickling etc) because we want her to know she doesn't have to take anything. Maybe i need to say something to E in P's hearing (and his parents) that she can tell anyone to stop and she can walk away. i dunno. love my friend, and love spending time with her - but hate that my girl became this kids target yesterday.