On my ante natal card with DD1 it had a section on the back at the bottom that said Birth Plan.
All I put on there was 'as natural as possible'.
I ended up with gas & 2 shots of pethidine as I was progressing slowly, but that's all I needed. & for them to tell me I had to stop fighting the contractions.
I was crying when they gave me the first shot of pethidine coz I didn't want it, but she gave it to me anyway. Then said 'it's ok, I won't do it'.
'I'm not stupid' I said back.
I am glad they did that though, coz they were talking about taking me for a c/s. I'm just really glad my MIL was there to tell them to just see how I go.
The pethidine was enough to relax me & get me through it.

With DD2 I think I just put the same on it. The MW was GREAT! I waited at home this time til I couldn't stand it. I was 6 - 7cm when I got to hossy.
When I said I needed to go to the loo, she said it was time to push, so I did. After about an hour she did an internal & decided I wasn't quite dialated enough & that I had to hold off for a bit. That was the first time I was offered the gas. I had one breath on it & started to go tingly around the mouth so I dropped it. That was it.
With DS I refused gas when they offered, but towards the end yelled out for pethidine. The MW knew I wanted to avoid pain relief as I refused the gas so prefusely, so before she agreed to the pethidine she offered the gas. I wasn't gonna go there though.
So she went off to get the pethidine while another MW kept an eye on me. She took her sweet time & I think its coz she knew I could do it & the pethidine was pointless.
I finally got it & 10 minutes later DS was born. 10 minutes later she said the pethidine would be just starting to kick in!

I haven't been through any thing compared to some people & I do know just how lucky I am, but that'a probably why I would go MW care over OB any day.
DD1 was the only one I had that an OB had anything to do with. I was booked for an induction, but decided against it (I was supposed to have it done at 2 days over due), then the talk about a ceaser.

I've been a public patient for all mine & am 100% confident in MW care. I also have been very lucky!

I think it's once it goes past MW's to OBs etc that other interventions come in. Sometimes they are necessary, but alot of the time it just for the OB's convenience.
Thats really not fair.
I really wish others could have birth experiences like mine.

I would have a birth plan, but just be prepared. I didn't worry about it 3rd time around coz I knew after DD2 just how different every birth is & that you just don't know what to expect. Anything could & does happen.

I know I've just come in here having no idea what its like to be in your position, but I just wanted to wish you luck in the future. Due to your c/s's you don't have much choice but to have an OB involved, but I really hope next time you find one who is more willing to follow your wishes.