Alan thanks heaps i have emailed you for more info.

Hoobily I think i have just about gone through every scenario in my head! Thanks for giving me some i hadn't thought of, i never even gave the epi one a thought as my births ahve been drug free i didn't stop to consider then wanting to do a epi in prep (how dumb i have had 2 c-secs before). I guess i am jsut not thinking prop at the moment.
It is about a half hor trip to the hospital from my place, so you can jsut imagine what that trip would be like when i am almost at pushing point!!!

I said to DH if we have to do it this way whcich i still see as stupid considering they don't want me taking risks but they arte not willing to support me so hence i have to do it on my own and therefore take risks!!!! But anyway i said well we could always go and rent a room at a motel once labour starts, can you imagine how that would look renting a room for a few hours
Oh gosh i think i have turned into a complete looney now! Anyway if thats what itcomes down to we will prob do that as i can't see myself wanting totravel half an hour in the car right at the end when those contractions are going to be coming thick and fast.

Anyway thanks heaps everyone for all your support and thoughts so far