De-briefing - it's important isn't it? *long - sorry*

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

FFS - trust me, let him out to the pictures now and it will be four day fishing trips before you know it. I have this with my DH - he's a DAD now, that means he's a PARENT, that means he should do some bloody PARENTING. Not tell you off for leaving him with a crying baby - I bet he leaves you with a crying baby! (11 months on and my DH is still not so great, I wish I'd been more forceful earlier!)

There's no such thing as "just" the blues - it's serious.

I know that when my mum came to stay with us it stopped DH from doing things because she just took over, it's quite detrimental to have a third party there in the early days. And he's just now stepping up because he's scared I'm going to set my friends on him!

Talking over you is just rude.

Have you posted your birth story here? That can help, you can get it out and have feedback on it, knowing that once you start you can keep going with no interuptions! I have posted mine four times now because of the trauma and violation - and finally DH admits it was a violation when I told him I was going to stick my hand up his @rse with half a second's warning and wiggle it around and see how he felt.

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and finally DH admits it was a violation when I told him I was going to stick my hand up his @rse with half a second's warning and wiggle it around and see how he felt.

well done RHF, PMSL good on you for telling it like it is!!!! I agree with you too don't let them get out of too much at this point you'll never get them back in to it otherwise. My DH was really uncomfortable at first but he relaxed alot I kept involving him in as much as I could.
There was no way he was going to a movie without me, no way, not happening!!! If you need to wait he needs to wait.