Hi there mrsr,
sorry, I only found this thread just now.... I am quite scared of my DH leaving me to it with a new baby. I am scared of his mates taking him out drinking etc as they all have done to excess with their own babies births. I want dh by my side, helping me and I can definately understand that you would want it too. It is completely reasonable that you want him to participate and not just duck out of the house like he is a single guy without a new baby! Have you had a chance since writing on here to talk more to him about it? Although you have done this before, it was a few years ago and it was a different baby! Every relationship is different and your time with Jack will be different than it was with James. You are a first time parent to Jack just as your DH is!
As for being talked over.... hmm is it that he feels a little embarrassed about the candour of discussing such a personal private experience with others? He might feel it is something not to discuss, kind of like talking about intimate sex life details? Maybe that is why? Not that it should be something to stop you. If you need to talk about it you should! We have had friends tell us some quite personal details about their births and we were in no way embarrassed or intimidated by them sharing those things. It is a wonderful thing that they want to share that info with us. It shows their trust in us and appart from that it is highly educational for us soon to be parents!!! So talk away hun... I am going hunting on BB now to see if you have managed to do a birth story yet. I cant wait to hear about it!!!
I am hoping that all this has come out the right way, I dont want to bag your DH too much as I'm sure he is struggling along the best he knows how but I am worried you arent getting the support you deserve right now. Hoping you feel on top of things soon hun. I look forward to telling you my birth story soon too!
Hugs from Saz