I didnt have a HAVE TO but I had a REALLY WANT to but I knew it wasnt possible because this person has 2 young kiddies of her own & lives 2 hours away. And as much as I really wanted DD there, because she is only 2 & I didnt know how long it would take for DS to be born, it was going to be way too hard to try & keep her entertained, so my mum bought her in as soon as she could get there after he was born