DIY Deliveries: More Women Go It Alone (US)

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

How about the fact that in labour I was told if I didn't sign - or refused to sign - a form for surgery they'd give it to DH, he said he would sign, and they'd do a section - a complicated one which may well result in a hysterectomy? I signed just for a feeling of control and so they would attempt turning and ventouse again. That's why I'm scared. I did not agree to an episiotomy, I said that pre-pushing, so they didn't even ask me, they just asked DH and cut up my body anyway. That's why I cannot trust "support". I know it should be different, but it wasn't and it has left me very wary.

[s361768]

see post below I don't know why my post was duplicated, I apologise

[s361768]

I DO NOT accept what you are saying. I do not consider myself an irresponsible person and I take offence to that.

It is lovely that you can afford a midwife to come to your home and assist you in birthing your baby. I can not afford this luxury at the present. However I will not being backed into a corner. I do not want to have this baby in a hospital.

With my second child I had a CS (despite reaching 8-9cm dilated after having my membranes ruptured) - which would have been ok had it been neccessary. I was told after the section by the midwife that it was not neccessary he was not in foetal distress afterall, he was fine and healthy. I will always remember this because of the horrible interventions I was subjected to prior to having him cut out of me.

Anyway I did not deny my 2nd baby (who I thought needed it at the time) a CS, I gave in and consented. I let them give me a CS because I was told that my baby was in distress and needed it. And then I got a real slap in the face after, because I was told it had not been neccessary, I could have birthed him naturally. This same midwife told me prior to being prepped for surgery that 1 in 3 women that walk into the Mater Mothers Hospital have CS. As if this was to make me feel better at the time.

I am not impressed by my hospital births at all. They were horrible experiences and I feel safer at home with my doula and my partner. I think birthing a baby in a hospital is irresponsible considering the interventions that I have had to go through.

I don't see how denying my baby the chance of an unneccessary CS (my chances are higher considerng I am VBAC and always with be to the hospital) is irresponsible.

Lots of medical professionals would consider you highly irresponsible for having a homebirth (even with a midwife) and would be saying directly to you, exactly what you put in the post about those women who choose to freebirth. Funny that!!!

Do you consider yourself irresponsible for denying your baby quick access to an emergency CS? I would guess not because you had a midwife present at your home while you gave birth and that makes all the difference when it comes to providing you and baby with rapid life-saving surgery!!!