Hi s361768,

I'm sorry you had such a terrible experience in hospital. The most striking thing about your post to me is when you say:

It is lovely that you can afford a midwife to come to your home and assist you in birthing your baby. I can not afford this luxury at the present. However I will not being backed into a corner. I do not want to have this baby in a hospital.
That was my point entirely - birth, normal healthy birth in the setting you choose (home) should NOT BE a luxury! I am in the UK and my homebirth was NHS provided, though if i could have afforded a private MW i'd have gotten one to avoid having to jump through the NHS hopps when i was so vulnerable. It is moot to talk about women "choosing" unassisted birth when their options are unassisted birth or major unecessary surgery! What kind of a choice is that?! It's like saying "Do you want to run this marathon with no shoes or no legs?"!

I don't think Cricket is saying it is irresponsible to birth at home, just that the option of unassisted birth isn't as safe as MW-attended homebirth. Given your set of experiences and options i too would be doing what you are doing. I am frightened to birth without medical back up but i am FAR more frightened of abdominal surgery.

:hugs: to you, i hope everything goes beautifully for you all.

Bx