I wish everyone could have the experience I had, though a lot of women aren't prepared to do the homework I did. It's really worth it
????
Birth and labour isn't an exam that if you study hard you get an A+. Many women who have bad experiences do prepare and do their 'homework'. I know my bad labour experience didn't come because I didn't put the effort in. One of the reasons why I posted is so that women who do have bad experiences don't think it is somehow their fault. Yes there are tools to help, yes there is pain relief and methods of coping. But lets not make this into who is the better mother because of their birthing experience. If I have misunderstood your intention please let me know.