I thought I was super prepared the first time. I had been seeing an acupuncturist all the way through my pregnancy, spent time in the last few weeks visualising the birth, sourced and bought specific birth-related relaxation cd's, spoke to my unborn son and let him know he shouldn't be afraid that his Mummy and Daddy were waiting for him and we would love and protect him and I read and re-read numerous books on calm birthing techniques. I even left work 9 weeks before I was due to leave my job behind and prepare myself as much as possible for my new role as a Mum.

Sadly none of that extensive homework did the trick and after a long, painful and somewaht traumatic labour he arrived by emergency CS. I don't think I could have done more homework if I tried. Homework isn't a guarentee of a fabulous birth.

Truth is there is not ryme nor reason to it, there is no special preparation or homework you can do. Birth is unpredictable, each baby's journey is different, and each birth unique.

I also feel sad that I won't experience birth again, I don't think I could cope with another child but I would glady birth again. I would even happily be a surrogate but I'm too old now!

Our family is complete, so no more birthing experiences for this little back duck!