Here's my two cents....

A first time birth can be a little more difficult to get through IMO, than second or third, etc. That DOESN'T have to mean traumatic! It's all new, and your body hasn't stretched that way before, but with good support and education, you'll be just fine. You were made to give birth, and your body can do it. It might take a little more work the first time, but, as I said, that doesn't have to mean trauma!

When it comes to labour and birth, I'd definitely recommend a doula. She'll be there to support you and advocate for you when you are too focussed on contractions to put up a fuss. She'll help make sure that your wishes are met, as long as that's possible. She'll help you cope with the contractions and keep you focussed. She can also show your husband how to help you.

And, for practical advice in labour - stay up and stay active, and use water for pain relief in whatever way you can.

All the best!