We were only in hospital 24ish hours too. First time baby too, here's how we did it - it could be a good compromise?

We didn't tell anyone we were in labour (this time is gonna have to be different, cos someone's going to need to watch Riv). River was born around 1:30pm, I had my stitches, our first breastfeed, just hung out as a family with our birth support partner too. Then maybe around 4:30pm (total guess) when we were ready, dh called our families (MY family weren't allowed to come without a coke slurpee in hand!), mine rocked up about 6, his about 7 and didn't stay for too much more than an hour.

I agree to get the hospital on your side, whatever you decide. I found it a little hard to get my family moving once I was over it, ended up telling dh to kick em out - they weren't any trouble, I was just ready to sleep. But if you ask a midwife to check on you every so often while they're there, then you can quietly say 'hey, can you tell them I've had enough and they need to leave'?

But definitely, your baby, your experience, your choice. And definitely a chat to dh reminding him how much you need this support from him. If he really wants his family to be there - then maybe leave it open? Say, 'hey once the baby's born, and I've had 2 hours or so to bond, why don't we take it from there?' You might get bored and welcome visitors, since all bub does is sleep, you might want to call his fam and say 'you can come, but only if you bring some Maccas'.

All the best with what you decide, and all the best with getting your dh to see things from your point of view - that after all that hard work, you deserve a bit of time out!

ETA: By the way, what Lis says is right, whatever your decide, your family probably will get over it once they've seen the baby!