I'll try and get this rant out and just hope someone can understand what I am saying. Am I being totally unreasonable on this?? Please note, if for any reason I need to go in for a C-section and have to spend longer in hospital the story changes a little and I will waiver the NO VISITORS rules.

So here goes...... The setting was outside a hospital waiting for the results of a CT that his brother had just had to have after being in a car accident (couldn't think of a better time to bring up the birth of a baby what was he thinking bringing it up then)

DP went on to tell his whole family how I don't want people to visit in hospital. The way I see it if its a natural burth I'm only there for 2 days and then Im back home, they can meet me at home the day I arrive for all I care but all I want is a little time to get to know the person Ihave been carrying for the last 9 months without people watching me or taking the baby and holding it themself. Its only 48 hours tops. But his family got all huffy about it and when I said no offence but I dont want anyone int eh hospital with me they took it the wrong way to start with and replied with a 'of course we wont be in there we will wait in the waiting room' which got me furious in the end. Ok I understand being a little put off by not being able to visit in hospital at all but they think they can come and wait int he waiting room till 5 minutes afte the baby is born and come in and hold it, they are out of the their minds!!!! Please can I spend at least 10 minutes with my baby and then please can i eat shower sleep whatever. I will be exhausted. But as the conversation got a little heated Barb turned to me and said 'Wayne has rights too, after all he is the grandfather' ARGH. I left it at that. Just kept thinking to myself I have rights I am the one going through this and if this is what I chose it isnt going to kill them to take that on board. I am not taking the baby away from them, in fact I am sure when I am tired and want a little time to myself I will be more then glad to let them come and hold the baby all day if they like. So I have made the executive decision that Dave either fixes the mess he made by bringing it up or I don't tell him either when I go into labour. Of all people I expected him to respect my wishes with this one.

PS. This stands for my non-existent family as well - I do not want my (real) cousin who is the closest family member I have (after being fostered when I was 12) to come and visit either!